I don't know why some people are destined to come into our lives and then leave. Maybe it has something to do with brain space and maximum capacity. If everyone we met and connected with stayed forever, then maybe our brains and hearts would be full by the time we were 16, and we would miss out on other, more important, people to come.
I'm sure you've all heard the saying about people coming into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. I'm not entirely sure what the difference between the reason and the season is, but there you have it. Human relationships from beginning to end explained by a pithy self-help statement.
But anyway, as the reason/season/lifetime seems to be the deal, it's something that everyone has to experience. The question is, how do you identify these people so you can let them help you with your needs, give to them in return, and ultimately let them go gracefully?
Let me know when you figure it out.
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Hmmm....a great question! I don't know if you ever know exactly if people are "reason or season" people until the end of the relationship. In other words, it takes some reflection before they are categorized. But it seems to me that when you have time to reflect afterwards, it all becomes clear. Of course, this is not helpful when you are in the midst of trying to make that decision! Sigh. Still looking for that blinking neon sign that should appear over people's head to let us know! Damn that invisible blinking sign...
PS--Obviously, "lifetime" people will not be able to reveal themselves until we are dead, but I figure if you are 90 and people are still around, it's a safe bet that they are for life.
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